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School children, Chicago Daily News, Inc., photographer. Created/Published 1928.

African American Photographs Assembled for the 1900 Paris Exposition, Library of Congress Prints and Photographs Division Washington, D.C. 20540 USA

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Title of Your Autobiography

This autobiography is dedicated to whom?

Date of completion.

Words of wisdom, favorite quote, or words to live by:

About the Author:


In a few pages, what is summary of your life story?

Please enter the date you began answering these questions.

What is your name? Do you like your name? If you could, would you choose another? What name would you choose? Who were you named for?

Are you male or female?

In what country, state, and city were you born? What hospital?

What is your birth order?

How old are you today? How old do you feel?

Do you speak any foreign languages?

What is your birth date?

Are you right-handed or left-handed?

Are you near-sighted or far-sighted?

What is your height, your weight, your eye color? Do you wear corrective lenses?

What is your mate's name?

What was your maiden name? If you are a woman and married, was it difficult to give up your maiden name and take your husband's name?

What is your anniversary date? How many years have you been married or were you married?

Are you overweight or underweight?

How many children do you have? What are their names? How old are they?

How many grandchildren do you have? What are their full names? How old are they?

What is, or was, your occupation?

What is your race? What is your religion? What is your political affiliation?

Do you live in the suburbs, a city, a town, or in a rural area? What is the population? Do you live in an apartment, a house, a condominium, or a retirement home?

Are you allergic to anything? What is your blood type?

Please add a question or fact that you would like to answer or share.

How would you describe yourself?


List the names and birthdates of your mother, father, maternal grandmother, paternal grandmother, maternal grandfather, paternal grandfather and other great grandfathers and grandmothers. What did you call them?

Do you have brothers and sisters? What are their names? When were they born? Do you remember the first time you saw them?

Where was your mother born? Where was your father born? What circumstances brought your parents to the place where you were born? Were there people already there whom they knew, or did they come into the community alone? Was the community welcoming to them?

Tell about your aunts and uncles. Did they play an important part in your growing up? Do you remember any special aunts and uncles?

Did you play with your cousins? Who are some of the cousins you know best?

Was there someone your family was particularly proud of?

If you could do anything differently about your family, what would it be?

Did the family get together much casually, or did you have to travel and dress up to spend time together?

Was yours a religious family? Did you attend services together? Were these dress-up affairs?

Did your family say grace? Did you sit down at the table together for every meal?

Did your family take vacations? Did you go to the same place every year; a summer house or resort?

Do you remember any special stories your grandmother or grandfather told you? Do you tell any of the same stories to your grandkids?

What was your relationship with your parents like? Would you describe it as warm? Formal? Loving? Stern? Demonstrative?

Did your grandparents live nearby? How often did you visit their homes? Did their homes have a special cooking smell? Onions? Cookies? What did their couch feel like? How big was the kitchen? Describe their home as you remember it.

Did your family ever have a reunion? What were some of the best reunions and why?

Can you remember any stories you heard about your grandparents when they were children? Do you feel as if you knew much about their lives?

As a teenager, did you get along well with your parents, or was there trouble?

How about your brothers and sisters? Did you get along with them? Do you remember ever playing a trick on your brother or sister? What pictures come to mind when you think about playing together?

Did someone in your family cause your folks more trouble than the rest?

Have your pets been like family members, or just like animals? Did you ever have a dog that ran away? Try to list all the pets you've had through the years and their personalities.

Did anyone in your family do handiwork? Needlework? Wood work? Was anyone particularly mechanical or artistic?

What did your dad do for a living? Your mom? Your grandparents?

Were you considered rich, poor, or middle class? Were times ever tough for all of you, or was it always smooth sailing? Did you have to go without things that your friends had?

Were your parents fancy dressers? When you think of them, what do you remember them wearing? Did your mother wear a special perfume you remember? Did your father wear cologne or after-shave?

What was it like when you took your mate to meet your family? Were they welcoming or standoffish?

Was there one moment when you felt that your parents and siblings accepted your mate as a family member?

What are the treasured pieces of furniture or family heirlooms that belonged to your parents or grandparents?

How did the Great Depression affect your family?

When you think back on your mother and father now, what do you realize about their lives that you didn't understand when you were growing up?

Looking back, do you think your parents were happy with the circumstances of their lives?

Did your father have a favorite saying you can remember him repeating? Did your mother have a favorite saying you can remember her repeating?

What memories would you like to share with your children or grandchildren that you never have before?

Can you describe your paternal and maternal family history in a page or less?

Is there anything else that you would like to share about your family?


Do you have warm feelings about the childhood home that you remember the most?

What did your home look like? Apartment, walk-up, condominium, or house? What was the color? Was it stone, wood - other? One story or two?

What did you look out onto?

What was your bedroom like?

Did you share it with your siblings, or was it cozy by yourself?

Can you remember the pictures that hung, wallpaper, carpeting, etc.?

Can you remember your telephone number and address?

What did you do to make your room your own? Did you sleep with a stuffed animal or doll? What was your animal or doll's name?

Can you remember what you daydreamed about in those days?

What time did your mail come? Was it exciting anticipating the mail?

Can you remember anything in particular that you received that was special?

Was security an issue? Did your parents keep the door locked or did family and friends come and go with the door unlocked?

How old were you when you were first trusted with a key?

Did your family eat at the kitchen table or in the dining room? What food conjures up the best childhood memories for you?

What do you remember having in the refrigerator growing up? Could you graze freely or eat only at meal times?

What was your parents' room like (beds, bedspreads, easy chairs, etc.)? Did you spend much time in their room with them? Were you allowed to rest in their bed when you were sick?

Was there much music in your house or was it relatively quiet? What type of music, if so? Did you play a Victrola, radio, record player, boom box, CDs?

Was there a lot of talking going on? Did you feel part of the adult conversation?

Was there any place in your house that scared you (the basement, attic)?

Was there any place you felt was really "your spot," felt comfy alone or maybe a hiding spot in Hide'N Seek?

Did you have a lawn? Have to mow it? Did you have gardens of flowers, vegetables or herbs? Did you help care for them?

What kind of chores were you required to do for the family?

What was your favorite season at your house? Do you remember summer as too hot or exhilarating and perfect? Did you swim a lot in the summer?

Did you ski or do winter sports in the cold weather?

Were there books in evidence around your house? Was there a special room in the house considered the "library"? Which of your parents' books and magazines do you remember reading?

Were you or your parents interested in the news? Which news stories made the greatest impression on you?

Where were the telephones in your home? Were you allowed to stay on the phone as long as you wanted or was there a time limit?

Which door did you use mostly? Front door, back door, kitchen door, side door? Was there usually someone there to greet you when you came home?

What time did you usually eat dinner? Was the family all together?

Were you proud of your house or shy about having friends over?

Did your parents have friends over often? Can you remember them having parties? Where did everyone gather? Did company come often for meals?

What time of the night do you remember your house getting quiet and preparing for sleep?

Did relatives or borders live with your family? What were their quarters like? Were you allowed in there?

Do you remember your house having a particular scent (cooking smells, aroma of flowers, laundry scents)?

What was the street like where you lived? Did you have a front stoop or porch? Informal or formal?

Can you remember excitement about a certain purchase (washing machine, phone, addition to the house) or repairs to the house?

If you could now move back into the house you grew up in, just the way it was then, would you? Why or why not?


Who were your best friends in your neighborhood? Do you still know them or know what happened to them?

Did you play at your home, theirs or mostly in playgrounds, the streets, fields?

What do you remember about your friends' houses and families?

Did you have a secret path you used to take to meet your friend?

Did you play house? Were you the mother, father, doctor, etc? Did you play stickball, ice skate, play basketball or baseball (what position did you play)? Did you go to the library?

Was there a neighborhood bully? Did that bully ever hurt you?

Did you have a nickname? How did you get it? Has it stuck with you?

What sidewalk games did you play? Did you collect anything (bugs, baseball cards, marbles, etc.)?

Did you have pets? What were their names? Were they usually strays? How did you acquire them?

Do you remember having the chicken pox, mumps or other childhood diseases? Were you ever seriously ill as a child? Who took care of you?

How did you go downtown and get back home? Trolley, bus, car, horseback, walk? Can you remember your first trip? Why did you usually go?

Did you ever have a natural disaster in your town like a tornado, flood, or immobilizing snow storm?

Describe your neighborhood - rural or suburban? Lots of grass or concrete? Did anyone have fancy gardens, a horse, or something "different" from the norm?

Do you remember a new family moving into your neighborhood? Did your family welcome them by sending food; were they hard to get to know; did they join your circle of friends?

What were your favorite board games?

Did you ever go door-to-door selling anything to your neighbors? Did you have a lemonade stand?

Would you like to have raised your children in a neighborhood like the one you grew up in? Why or why not?

Did you have any imaginary friends growing up? Did your parents play along?

Were you afraid of the boogeyman or the monster under the bed?

What were your favorite books, poems or bedtime stories as a child?

Did you go to camp? Did anyone from your neighborhood go with you? Do you remember any of the counselors or groups of kids? What did you do at camp?

What did you ever do that got you into trouble with your parents? At school? What were the punishments?

Did you attend a religious school? Did you bring those values with you into adulthood?

Was your neighborhood a good, safe place in which to take walks? Do you remember any incidences?

Did you ever want to run away? Why?

What was a perfect day when you were a child?

What is your first memory?

What were the names of neighborhood landmarks? The ice cream store? Drugstore? Barber shop? Grocery store? Flower shop? Shoe repair shop? What do you remember most vividly about them?

Now that you are an adult, what advice would you give to a child about childhood?

Is there anything else you would like to write about your childhood?


What was the name of your school? How big was it? What did it look like? Was it a private or public school?

Did you ride a bus to school? If so, did you like riding the bus? Do you remember anything that happened on that bus?

What did you learn in school that you still use to this day?

Do you remember being afraid to enter first grade? What did you think when you first saw the classroom?

Do remember "getting" a concept? Cursive writing, maybe? Do you remember the moment when you realized you could read? Was school work hard or easy for you?

Did you like physical education / gym class? Did you feel you were good at sports? Were you picked first or last for the teams?

Do you remember shopping for school clothes? Getting excited at what you would wear the first few weeks? Did you ever go to school where you wore a uniform?

Did you eat lunch at school or go home? Did you bring your own lunch? Did you have a lunchbox? If so, what did it look like?

How did you get to school...walk alone, with friends, bus, parent, neighbor?

What did you do in the summertime when there was no school?

What was your first grade teacher's name? Were you in awe of her? How about your second grade teacher or third grade teacher...or others?

Do you remember any visitors that came to your classroom like the mayor, an actor, a cowboy star?

Do you remember any field trips your class took? If you lived in the city, did you go to a farm, factory, big museum?

Did you say the "Pledge of Allegiance" to start the day? Did you say a prayer? How did you feel about those topics as a child?

Were you ever the new kid in school?

Did you win awards at school? Were you ever a star in music?

Who was your best friend in elementary school?

Do you remember the names of any school books? Do you remember the illustrations in them?

Did you have a hobby during those years? Did you ice skate, build things or perform magic, etc.? Did your school mates know about it or did you keep it to yourself?

Were you in a scout troop or any other organization? Do you remember the leader? Any projects? Any impressions?

Who was the principal at your elementary school? Were you ever called to the principal's office? If so, why?

What did you think of the older kids? Did they seem sophisticated to you? Were they doing some activity that you just could hardly wait to do?

What was your attitude about school? Were you excited about it, bored or just tolerated it?

Do you remember kindergarten? What do you remember?

Did you have any friends who went with you all the way from elementary school through high school? Are they still your friends?

Did you have a favorite teacher?

Do you ever remember your mother coming to your school for any reason?  What was the usual punishment at your school for wrongdoing?

Do you remember having to stand up in front of the class to read a paper or a story?

Can you remember a historic event that happened when you were in school?

Is there anything else you would like to write about the school years before high school?


What was the name, state and population of your town?

What was the main source of the town's income?

Did you have the pride of having a farm or business handed down from generation to generation?

What types of food were generally considered for dinner time? Have you raised your family with the same types of foods?

If you lived on a farm, what was the week like? What was Sunday like?

How did friendships differ from rural life vs large city life (if you have experienced both)?

Did you ever dream of leaving your small town?

What invention came last to rural areas from the cities?

What did you raise on your farm? How large was it? How many acres? How many buildings? How did things change seasonally?

Who helped your family on your farm? Hired hands or neighbors?

Did you ever raise an animal and show it at a fair? Did you have to sell it? How did you feel about that?

What time did you get up in the morning? What were the sounds of the farm, fields, farmhouse, barns?

What were your working conditions during the different seasons?

What animals did you witness giving birth? Were they vet-assisted, or did the family hold the vigil? What do you remember about your veterinarian?

You likely saw some death, too. How did you learn to handle that?

Did you take your crops to market? Tell about the good and lean years.

Who were your neighbors? Did the neighbors form a tight community? Did you ever have to help out in an emergency?

Do you think weather is the most important component in a farmer's life?

Did you ever win the "largest" category with your produce or show a prize steer? Did you win ribbons, or stuffed animals, at the fair?

What are some of the biggest differences between living in a small town and a big city? Pros and cons?


Do you like your birthday or dread it? What birthday do you remember the most?

Did you get to choose the meal on your birthday? Were birthdays considered a "big deal" when you were young? Did you raise your children to think they were a big deal?

Did your family make birthday cakes or did you buy them? What were the favorite flavors? What kind of birthday parties did you give for your children?

What were the most important religious holidays you celebratedthroughout the year? What was the significance of the holiday (i.e., why were you celebrating it)?

How did you celebrate each major holiday?

What holiday did you especially like? Which holiday was really not much fun for you?

What were some of the best memories from any of the holidays you celebrated?

What was served at your holiday dinners? What do you remember about these dinners?

What are some of your memorable birthdays from your life? Were any birthdays particularly difficult because you reached a certain numerical age?

Is there a holiday present or birthday present that especially sticks out in your mind?

Did you have a shower for a wedding or baby? Do you have special memories of these events? Who was there?

How did you celebrate New Year's Day?

How did you celebrate Valentine's Day? Did you and your schoolmates exchange Valentine's in elementary school? What was the best Valentine's Day for you and why?

Did you ever get flowers or candy for Valentine's Day? Any other unique present on that day? Do you still send and receive Valentine's card to this day?

How did you celebrate Easter or Passover?

Did anyone ever dress up like the Easter Bunny to surprise your children? Was church in your schedule at Easter? Did you color Easter eggs?

Was Mother's Day an important day? How did you typically celebrate it?

How about Memorial Day? What did Memorial Day mean to you and your family?

Was Father's Day an important day? How did you typically celebrate it?

As a child, what did you do on the Fourth of July? What do you do now?

Labor Day signified the end of summer. What were some of the best Labor Day weekends you experienced?

Do you like Halloween? What have you gone dressed up as? Did your parents make your costume or did they buy them? What was Halloween like growing up? Do you remember the pals you Trick-Or-Treated with?

What Halloween candy do you pass out?

What did you usually do on Thanksgiving in your youth? What do you do now?

What do you do on New Year's Eve normally? What was the fanciest New Year's Eve party you ever attended?

Do you remember a holiday you had to spend alone? Which was the best holiday of your life? The worst?

Any advice to a new parent about celebrating the holidays? Any regrets?

What did Christmas morning feel like when you were a child? Was it hard getting to sleep the night before? What are some of your holiday religious rites and traditions?


Where did you go to high school? What was your mascot? What were your school colors? Do you remember any of the cheers? What was your favorite song during high school? What type of music was popular?

Who were your friends? What did you like about them? Who were your favorite teachers?

What kind of extra-curricular activities did you do in high school? Were you on the school paper? A sports team? Were you a class officer?  A cheerleader? A nerd? Were your friends involved in the seme activities as you were?

Were you ever honored at school? Varsity letter? Homecoming court? Valedictorian? Do you remember the students who were?

Do you remember any students you felt sorry for because other students made fun of them or took advantage of them?

Were you a diligent student or did you have a more casual approach?

Did you study a foreign language? Did those lessons stick with you? Were you ever able to use that language on vacation or in your community?

Did science or math come hard to you? Did art or English come easily?Do you remember any long papers you wrote or any special projects?

Who did you go to your prom with? What did you wear? Did you dance much?

Were you a beatnik, hippie or rebel?

Did you have hobbies, read a lot, enjoy political debates, bands, or just hanging out with your friends? Did you have a part time job? Did you babysit? Did you do volunteer your time?

Were you popular? If not, did it bother you? Did you buy a class ring? Was it a big expense for you?

Where did your crowd hang out? Did you go to a diner, drugstore, library, friends' houses, etc.?

What were the clothing trends when you were in high school? Did you follow the trends?

Who was your principal? Who was your gym teacher? Coaches? Did you spend much time at the library? Was homework easy for you?

Did your parents like your friends? Were you happy in high school?

Were you in a clique or sorority? Was it a good decision?

Did you ever skip school? Where did you usually go after school? Did you do homework after school? Did you work in high school? Did you ever get disciplined in high school?

How did you usually spend your weekends? Did you do chores around the house? Did you spend more time at one friend's house than anybody else's? At whose house did people gather? How did their parents like having all the kids around?

What did you discover about yourself in high school? Did you learn a skill that you could take out in the world with you? Were you sad when it ended, or were you ready to leave it all behind?

Were you philosophical - a deep thinker?

Have you ever attended a high school reunion? What truths did you learn about your classmates, if you attended? What truths about your community that you might not have thought about before?

How important were your high school years in your life? Do you ever dream about those years? If you could have one conversation now with yourself when you were a high school student, what would you say?

How would the young adult you were view the person you've become?

Is there anything you would like to add about your high school years? Perhaps the best day of your high school years?


If you went to college, where did you go? Why did you choose that school? How much was tuition? Was it difficult to afford? Did you receive financial assistance or a scholarship? A loan? Was your school large or small? What was it known for?

What was your living situation? Did you live in a dorm or a room off campus? Who was your roommate? Did you get along? How did you decorate your place? Were you comfortable there?

What was your major? Why did you pick it? Were you ever able to use anything you learned in college in real life? Did you change colleges or majors partway through? Why?

Did you join a sorority or fraternity? Was it important to you?

When you first got to college, were you thrilled to be away from home? If you were homesick, what did you do about it? Write letters? Cry? Confide in someone? Or try to hide your feelings? If you were thrilled to be at college, were you quick at making friends? Who was your first friend there? Did you remain close through the years?

Were you on any sports teams? If not, did you follow them? Were any of your teams champions or near-champs?

Was there any professor who made a special impression on you? Good or bad? What subject did he or she teach? Were you able to take more than one class from this person? Did he or she ever make a comment about your work that stuck in your memory?

Why was it important for you to go to college? Was it an expected step in your community, or were you the first in your family to go for a degree? What motivated you most? Love of learning, or just getting through?

Were you able to get home for the holidays? What do you remember about going home once you began college?

Did you change much at college? Did your parents notice? Did you friends back home notice? Did they mention it to you?

What define college life during the years you were there? Did you go to coffee houses? Did you attend poetry jams?

Did you remain friendly with anyone you met at college? Did you visit each other over the years? Did you keep in touch by letter before affordable long distance and e-mail?

Did you have a number of casual love interests or one special person throughout college? How did this experience change you?

Was your class work difficult or easy for you? What were your study habits? Did you pull all-nighters? Did you cram with friends, or work alone?

Were you involved in campus politics? What issues "impassioned" you? Did you protest? How did you feel about politics during your college years?

Did you have a part-time job while you were in school? If yes, what did you do? If no, why not?

What did you notice about students from other parts of the country? Accents? Different taste in clothing? Religious differences? More conservative or liberal ideas? Did you learn to be more tolerant? Do you have an example of how you learned to be more tolerant?

Was there one class that particularly inspired you? Was there one that felt just impossible?

Did any famous performers or lecturers appear at your college? Who were some famous graduates from your school? Anyone you could tell would be a big success even then?

Did you graduate from college? What degree did you get? Did you attend graduation? Did you win any accolades at college? Phi Beta Kappa? Valedictorian? Magna cum laude?

Do you think you made the most of your college years, or would it have been more advantageous for you to have gone to school later on?

Which do you have fonder memories of - college or high school?

Did college ever start to feel like home to you? Or was it always just a stopping-off place?

Did your friends back home who didn't go to college treat you differently when you came home for holidays or the summer? How did it make you feel?

Were you the same person when you got out of college as when you entered as a freshman?

Have you ever been to a college reunion? Was it fun, or sort of sad? Did you see anyone there whom you were surprised and happy to see? Anyone you did not care to see?

Did you attend any kind of graduate school? Please share your graduate school experience.

Is there anything else you would like to add about your college years? Any advice you would like to give to someone just starting out?


Name, rank, and serial number? Were you drafted or did you enlist? What was the first you saw of the service - the enlistment center? What did you see there that made you want to sign up? What was it like at the draft board?

How quickly did you move up through the ranks? Who was the first officer you admired?

What was the name of your company? Did it have a nickname? Where were you stationed? Describe what it was like.

Did you win any medals or citations? What for? Where do you keep that medal now - is it prominently displayed in your house, or is it stashed away in a drawer?

What entertainers did you see perform? Which of your buddies did you sit with when you saw the program? What songs do you remember hearing during the war? Which song most says "war years" to you?

What did your uniform look like? Did wearing it change your attitude?

What supplies and weaponry were you issued? How long did it take you to learn to use your weapon? What was the situation on the practice range? Were you a pretty good shot?

Where did you go through basic training? Were you with any of your hometown buddies? How tough was it? Which part did you excel in, in which part did you lag behind? Who was the officer in charge?

Describe your barracks - from basic training on up. Who were your bunkmates? Were you close with any of them?

Was military food as bad as it's rumored to be, or was it okay? What were some of your typical meals?

What were your duties and assignments, in camp and on the field?

Who were your best buddies? Are you still in touch with any of them?

Who did you write letters to? Who did you get letters from? What time did the mail come every day? What was that like?

What commander did you get along the worst with? Was there one you were friendly with?

When did you first see combat? Did it take you by surprise, or did you know it was coming?

When did you first see death? Did you lose any of your good friends?

Where did you go for rest and relaxation? Was it a debauched time, or was it fairly good, clean fun? What did you see on one of these trips that you had never seen before?

Who took you to the train when you were to report for duty? Was it a teary farewell? What was the date of your swearing in? What was the date of your discharge?

What was your theater of operation? What did you learn about the culture of that country? How did the citizenry differ from the citizenry of your country?

Where did you go on maneuvers? Were they a reasonable facsimile of real warfare?

When you get together with buddies to tell war stories, what stories do you tell?

What was the biggest act of courage you saw? By an ally? By an enemy? What did it add to your life?

When you think of your years in the service, what landscape describes it? Mountains? Sand? Jungle?

What route did you take in your homecoming? Who was waiting to meet you?

Can you remember what your parents first said to you?

Was there a love waiting for you when you came back home, or were you unattached? Did the war make you ready to settle down, or did you come home in a more crazy, celebratory mood? Did you have dark days?

Did you ever consider re-upping? What were your thoughts about enlisting again?

Who were the pinup girls of the day?

Did you believe in what you were fighting for? When you look back on your own years in the service, are your personal memories predominantly good or bad ones?

What did you think about people who protested against the war?

How difficult was the transition from the military back to civilian life?

Are you a member of a veterans' organization? Are you active in it? What does it add to your life?

Is there anything else you would like to add about your military career? Any advice you would like to give to someone considering a career in the military?


Questions about life during wartime.


Questions about how you had fun.


What was your first real job? Did you start out in an after-school job that had any relation to what you ended up doing?

Describe your career.

Has anyone helped you up the ladder, even with the first job? Was it easy for you to ask for or accept this help?

Are you union or management?

What career would you have chosen If you didn't have to think about money or education (just assuming both were taken care of)?

What got you the most upset at work?

Did you get along with your co-workers and bosses? Did you sense anger and frustration at your work place? Was there a feeling of teamwork?

Were you ever the boss? Would you have wanted to be? Did you ever run your own business? How did it start?

What was a "power lunch" in your day? What kind of meal was it - three martinis or the blue-plate special?

Were you friendly with your coworkers? Is there one you particularly remember?

Did you have a secretary? Were you very dependent on the secretary or administrative assistant?

What was your boss like? Was he or she a frightening person or a
benevolent person?

What lessons did you learn about your career and thoughts about work? Looking back at your career, what is it that it meant to you?

Do you think your workplaces were friendly places for employees? What was the overriding attitude in the place? Did management mix with workers?

How did you feel on Mondays? How did you feel on Fridays? Were you dead tired at the end of the day? Mentally or physically? Or spiritually? Or did you often not want the day to end?

Did you have a mentor? Were you a mentor? When did you realize that there was someone looking up to you as a professional person in your chosen career?

Did you look forward to retirement? Did they throw a party for you at work? Did they give you a gift? What was it? Is there anyone still there whom you miss?

Did you ever ride through rocky times at your workplace? Was your company sold or taken over?

Did you feel that you had a career, or just a job?

What is your greatest accomplishment at work?

Did you ride mass transit to work? Did you see the same people every day?

Was there a place you went to lunch a lot at work? Was it close by? Was there one person you went to lunch with more than others? Did you often go alone?

Did you ever socialize with your boss? Did he take you out for lunch or drinks?

Would you call yourself ambitious? Ambitious for money, power, influence, or something else? Would you call yourself a leader or a follower?

What about you led to the career choices you made? Special interests, or were your decisions purely economic? Or did the choice just kind of happen?

Have the things you purchased been worth the work you have done to buy them?

Was your profession a respected one in your community?

Do you think you were paid fairly at jobs throughout your life?

Were you ever fired or laid off? How did you cope with that?

Were you promoted? Did it come unexpectedly, or did you let it be known you wanted the job? Who told you? How did you feel and react when you heard the news?

Were you ever passed over for a position you thought you deserved? Why?

Did you ever have to deal with a strike at your place of business? Did you walk the picket line? Did you have to cross it? How did that affect things about the job?

Did you define yourself by your job? Were you proud when people asked you what you did, or would you rather have been able to say something else?

Did you have a good balance of home and work?

Is there a business person you particularly admire? Why?



Do you remember your first kiss?

What kind of dating did you do in high school? What is your favorite kind of date - even now?

Were you always attracted to the same type of person? Did you like the strong, silent type, the bouncy blonde?

Who was your first love? Did you think it was going to last? Who broke whose heart?

Did you know when you very first met your mate that this would be your life's partner? Did he/she know it?

Do you believe you can be in love more than once?

Describe your wedding, your outfit, your spouse's, your Mom's, your Dad's, the bridal party, the church or hall, the reception, the food. If more than one wedding - tell all!

Was there anything unusual in your wedding vows? Were your knees knocking? Who performed the ceremony?

What do/did you like best about your mate? (A physical attribute, his/her being, his/her laughter, his/her smile, his/her mind.) What term of endearment do/did you call your mate?

What were the hardest times of your relationship? Was there ever atime that you thought it might really be over?

Who were the biggest crushes in your life? Name your other heartthrobs through the years.

What song do you consider the most romantic?

Did you date much before your chose a partner?

What was your last relationship like? Were you unhappy when it ended?What did you learn in that relationship?

Everybody has bad habits -- what drives you craziest about your mate?

If you had to do it all over again, what qualities would you choose in a mate now?

Did you ever have an unrequited love?

Have you gone ahead and chosen a mate just because they loved you first?

Is there a fragrance/perfume/cologne that always brings to mind someone special (or not so special) when you smell it?

What anniversary gift do you remembering giving? What anniversary gift do you remember getting?

Are you a romantic? In words or deeds?

When you are not in a relationship, are you happy to be alone?

Did you have an engagement ring? What does/did your wedding ring look like? Would you trade it for a bigger, shinier one? Do you wear both rings? Are they inscribed inside?

What did your mate say when asking you to marry? What was the answer?  Where were you?

How was it when you first met your spouse's parents? Did you get along with your in-laws? What did your own parents say about your mate?

Who is the most loving and romantic couple you know?

Where did you go on your honeymoon? Did you ever take a second honeymoon?

Talk about your first place together...was it a place you loved or were you making due?

Looking back now, did you get married at the right time or should you have waited longer or done it earlier?

In your years of being together what have you learned about your mate that you didn't know when you met?

What have you learned about yourself?

Describe your search for love.


Questions about your children and your parenting style.



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